In 1985, (I was 14 years old), social media did not exist yet. Duran Duran was all the rage, we wore Forenza sweaters, usually layered over stirrup pants, got our hair permed, bought books at Walden’s and albums at Cavages.

We loved the mall, and spent much of our time there. That was our socialization. If anyone was looking for us, they’d have to wait until we got home to call them back. (From a rotary phone, attached to a wall.)

Here we are in 2017. My daughter is 14 years old. Social media is part of popular culture. Favorite music is always at your fingertips, can be downloaded in seconds. Skinny jeans, tank tops, and anything from Pink fill the wardrobe. Blue or purple hair is not uncommon.

The mall is still a favorite destination for today’s teenager, just as it was for us in the 80’s. But socialization has changed.

In today’s world, an afternoon of shopping, primping, and dining is thoroughly documented on social media as it happens. Fitting rooms and restrooms become the backdrop for selfie photo shoots. And, as long as your phone is fully charged, you can be reached immediately. Socialization.

In my humble opinion, socialization lacks personalization in 2017. We know what everyone is doing, where everyone is, what they’re eating, what they’re listening to, etc. But do we really know the individual?

Before social media, we were tasked with getting to know a person through conversation and time spent together. Sure, we took photos in the 80’s. (Usually not in restroom mirrors, though.) We formed our opinions about each other based on personal and social experiences. Social media cannot gage one’s true humanity.

As the parent of a teenager in this hyper informational era, my concern is always safety. Knowing your child’s whereabouts at all times is great for a parent. But now, that information is shared with everyone. Peace of mind, or cause for concern?

As technology advances, will we continue to lose touch with ourselves? Will social media shape, repair, or destroy our reputations?

A timeless truth remains; we control our content. That includes content of character, as well as the content of our news feeds.